《安靜,就是力量》作者蘇珊.坎恩,在這部新作中,闡述擁抱「苦甜思維」的重要性,帶你踏上通往創造力、連結和自我超越的道路。
有些明明很悲傷的歌曲,卻能讓並不傷心的你,忍不住一聽再聽;有的時候,絕美的藝術作品、壯麗的自然景色,讓你像忽然被襲擊一樣,震撼得無法動彈、熱淚盈眶;你明白人們所說,所謂內在的死亡與新生,其實可以是同一件事,究竟是什麼意思;身邊的人有時認為你的情緒太過纖細易感,甚至你自己也這麼覺得──而這無疑是個被眾人負面評價的特質。
如果以上所述是你曾經有過的經驗,而社會主流大力鼓吹的積極進取、樂觀正向心態,常常讓你感覺格格不入,這部作品所描繪的「苦甜思維」,正是你的歸屬。
在暢銷作《安靜,就是力量》中,蘇珊.坎恩揭示了被大眾忽略的巨大潛力,敦促我們的社會,為被低估價值、群體中必不可少的內向者,提供更友善的生存空間。在這部令人期待的新作中,坎恩再度運用精湛的說故事功力,結合研究資料、真實案例與自身經驗,深入探索我們的悲傷與渴望,以及其中蘊含的力量。
坎恩在這部作品中探討悲傷令人驚奇的益處、人們對完美的渴望、如何在這個迷信正面積極能量的社會中生存、如何面對死亡與失去等等議題。她舉例,就像某些人事物之所以使我們經驗悲傷、痛苦,正是因為他們對我們如此重要,才能深刻牽動我們的情緒,愛與痛是難以切割的存在,而光明與黑暗並存、生命的誕生與死亡相倚的道理亦是如此,也因此,想要追求更完滿、美好的人生,就不應也不能迴避與其相反的一切。
本書闡述了這種接納苦樂共存的「苦甜思維」,可以如何幫助我們在經歷個人或集體的痛苦時,進一步超越痛苦本身,將之轉化為巨大的能量。在這個充滿相異看法、個人焦慮情緒滿載的時代,本書更以深刻且讓人驚奇的方式,讓我們學會理解自己和他人,並凝聚彼此。(文/博客來編譯)
In her new masterpiece, the author of the bestselling phenomenon Quiet reveals the power of a bittersweet outlook on life, and why we’ve been so blind to its value.
“Bittersweet grabs you by the heart and doesn’t let go.”—BRENÉ BROWN, author of Atlas of the Heart
“Susan Cain has described and validated my existence once again!”—GLENNON DOYLE, author of Untamed
“A sparkling ode to the beauty of the human condition.”—ADAM GRANT, author of Think Again
ONE OF THE MOST ANTICIPATED BOOKS OF 2022—Oprah Daily, BookPage
Bittersweetness is a tendency to states of longing, poignancy, and sorrow; an acute awareness of passing time; and a curiously piercing joy at the beauty of the world. It recognizes that light and dark, birth and death —bitter and sweet—are forever paired.
If you’ve ever wondered why you like sad music . . .
If you find comfort or inspiration in a rainy day . . .
If you react intensely to music, art, nature, and beauty . . .
Then you probably identify with the bittersweet state of mind.
With Quiet, Susan Cain urged our society to cultivate space for the undervalued, indispensable introverts among us, thereby revealing an untapped power hidden in plain sight. Now she employs the same mix of research, storytelling, and memoir to explore why we experience sorrow and longing, and how embracing the bittersweetness at the heart of life is the true path to creativity, connection, and transcendence.
Cain shows how a bittersweet state of mind is the quiet force that helps us transcend our personal and collective pain. If we don’t acknowledge our own heartache, she says, we can end up inflicting it on others via abuse, domination, or neglect. But if we realize that all humans know—or will know—loss and suffering, we can turn toward one another.
At a time of profound discord and personal anxiety, Bittersweet brings us together in deep and unexpected ways.