How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen

　　《社會性動物》、《第二座山》作者大衛．布魯克斯針對如何真正了解他人，以在工作、家庭、人生的其他面向中建立深層的人際連結，提供真摯而實用的建議。
 
　　當我年輕的時候，我希望自己能成為知識淵博的人，但隨著年紀增長，我希望自己能擁有智慧。有智慧的人不只是擁有知識，他們更擁有對他人深具同情心的理解力。
 
　　大衛．布魯克斯觀察到，存在於任何健康的個人、家庭、學校、社群組織、社會的核心技巧，是看見且讓對方感覺被看見──正確地認識他人，讓對方感覺被重視、聆聽和理解。
 
　　然而我們很多人卻無法做到這件事。圍繞在我們身邊的，是人們感覺被忽視、被誤解。在本書中，布魯克斯試圖幫助我們做得更好，他為我們提出許多重要的問題：如果你想要認識一個人，你該對他們投入何種程度、何種類型的關注？你們該進行什麼樣的對話？關於對方哪些部份的人生故事，是你應該特別留意的？
 
　　布魯克斯指出，我們「看見」他人的行為深具創造性：人們是如何直視對方的雙眼，並看見其中隱藏的訊息，進而從中看見我們自己？本書從心理學、神經科學、哲學、歷史到教育等領域，綜合呈現關於人際交流的探索，將幫助讀者更理解自己與他人、對彼此更有同理心，並找到被真正重視的愉悅感。在這趟探索的旅程中，也為被敵意和誤解所撕裂的社會，提供可能的解方。(文/博客來編譯)

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER - A practical, heartfelt guide to the art of truly knowing another person and fostering deeper connections at home, at work, and throughout our lives--from the author of The Road to Character and The Second Mountain

＂More than a guide to better conversations, it’s a blueprint for a more connected and humane way of living. It’s a must-read for anyone looking to deepen their relationships and broaden their perspectives.＂--Bill Gates, GatesNotes (Summer Reading Pick)

As David Brooks observes, ＂There is one skill that lies at the heart of any healthy person, family, school, community organization, or society: the ability to see someone else deeply and make them feel seen--to accurately know another person, to let them feel valued, heard, and understood.＂

And yet all around are people who feel invisible, unseen, misunderstood. In How to Know a Person, Brooks sets out to help us do better, posing essential questions: If you want to know a person, what kind of attention should you cast on them? What kind of conversations should you have? What parts of a person’s story should you pay attention to?

Driven by his trademark sense of curiosity and determination to grow as a person, Brooks draws from the fields of psychology and neuroscience and the worlds of theater, philosophy, history, and education to present a welcoming, hopeful, integrated approach to human connection. How to Know a Person helps readers become more understanding and considerate toward others, and to find the joy that comes from being seen. Along the way it offers a possible remedy for a society that is riven by fragmentation, hostility, and misperception.

The act of seeing another person, Brooks argues, is profoundly creative: How can we look somebody in the eye and see something large in them and, in turn, see something larger in ourselves? How to Know a Person is for anyone searching for connection, and yearning to be understood.

David Brooks is one of the nation’s leading writers and commentators. He is an op-ed columnist for The New York Times and appears regularly on PBS NewsHour and Meet the Press. He is the bestselling author of The Second Mountain, The Road to Character, The Social Animal, Bobos in Paradise, and On Paradise Drive.