當我讀完這本書我才了解我有幾個干擾我心靈的反建設性的扭曲認知, 舉例然言, 扭曲的認知#2: The idea that you absolutely must be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving 正是描述我的情景. 我卻去的有點完美主義的思考模式, 我會拒絕, 比方來說, 寫這篇書評因為一些愚蠢的理由-今天太累了, 我的頭腦沒有在最佳狀態, 或許明天我會更清醒一點等等. 而我根深蒂固的扭曲的認知事實上正是失敗的恐懼. 現在我知道我可以不因成功來評量自我的價值. 這個扭曲的認知甚至使我遠離清晰的思路和表現. 在P122本書提到:
“…stress your doing rather than perfectly well. Not that you won’t find it desirable to perform well. Often you will, because by doing so you gain more goods, services and favors. Fine! But not necessary.”