F*ckboys Are Boring: A Gay Man’s Guide to Navigating Love in a World of Toxic Relationships (for Everyone)

Brawny model and eating disorder advocate, Ryan Sheldon bares it all on his escapades as a gay man looking for love in the digital swipe culture hellscape that is modern dating. F*ckboys Are Boring is a raw, hilarious dating guidebook for everyone.

In this salacious, vulnerable, heartbreaking and hilarious guide to surviving the digital hellscape that is modern dating, model and eating disorder activist, Ryan Sheldon offers a path to healing while looking for real love. Ryan unapologetically shares it all (even the cringeworthy) about his escapades as a gay man looking for romance in a sea of fuckboys. F*ckboys Are Boring is a guidebook for anyone who has struggled with feeling inferior, unworthy, or less-than while looking for connection in this disconnected world. Whether you’re gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, or queer, this book offers reprieve from swipe culture and includes a compatibility scale that will help you find love based on your values while also keeping your dignity intact.

But this is more than a dating guide. Sheldon gets vulnerable about his struggles with mental illness-including obsessive-compulsive disorder, abandonment wounds, and his addiction to chaos. He shares the truth about his eating disorder recovery and what it was like to walk away from an abusive relationship. He exposes the truth about dating in a larger body and finding love and acceptance for himself at any size. And he doesn’t hold back when he shares the wild stories from dating as a gay man in the digital modern world and the lessons he learned from those experiences.

F*ckboys Are Boring offers a new way of rating dates with a compatibility scale, the first of its kind, and invites readers to create their own scale so they can make dating choicesbased on their values (not just looks). Readers will come away with their own list of dating deal breakers, guides on how to maintain boundaries and self-respect in the modern era of swipe-culture, and a toolbox of resources that Sheldon has picked up through decades of therapy.

If you’re frustrated with the dehumanizing digital hellscape that is modern dating, F*ckboys Are Boring offers solace and support. Sheldon is like your gay best friend, dishing on all his outrageous dating stories, offering guidance and wisdom, and crying with you as one heartbroken casualty of harsh dating life to another. F*ckboys Are Boring offers hope to anyone (including f*ckboys) who has ever struggled with not feeling good enough while searching for love and offers a way for us to look at ourselves with compassion.

Ryan Sheldon is a renowned speaker, brawn model, and a fervent advocate for eating disorder awareness and self-love. He has appeared in prominent media outlets such as the Today Show, BBC, Huffington Post, and Teen Vogue, and passionately addresses body image, self-acceptance, and self-esteem in high schools. He also co-hosted a weekly radio segment on Love Line with Dr. Chris Donaghue, focusing on body image issues, and inspires young adults by discussing masculinity, identity, and body confidence.

Sheldon’s message is one of resilience as he confronts weight-bullying and openly shares his struggles with binge eating disorder while exploring his evolving sexuality. He served as the Chair of the Ambassador program at the National Eating Disorders Association and has been on billboards in Times Square as a brawn model for prestigious brands like Hanes Underwear, Bonobos, and Target. His chapter in the book ＂Eating Disorders Don’t Discriminate: Stories of Illness, Hope, and Recovery from Diverse Voices＂ offers guidance and hope to those on a similar journey. In addition to his advocacy and media work, Ryan finds solace in the company of his beloved dog, Riley, and the world of music at the piano. Ryan Sheldon’s Instagram, @realryansheldon, continues to be a platform for spreading messages of self-love, acceptance, and empowerment, making him an inspiring guide for others on their path to healing and self-discovery.