Dealing with Feeling: Use Your Emotions to Create the Life You Want

 
　　在他的暢銷作《讓感受自由》當中，耶魯大學情緒素養中心創辦人、耶魯大學兒童研究中心教授馬克．布雷克特，闡述了情緒教育不足所帶來的影響──無論孩子或成人都不知如何表達自己的感受，並經常選擇壓抑、忽略情緒，反而讓這些無法面對的情緒，接管了人生。他提出了情緒與社交學習系統「RULER」，帶領讀者培養情緒素養。新冠肺炎疫情肆虐期間，布雷克特收到眾多來自家長、學校、企業等的求助，希望能找到方法來幫助兒童與成人，面對他們正在經歷的驚慌、恐懼與不安全感，於是有了本書的誕生。布雷克特在這部新作中，深入分享如何練成情緒管理這個極度重要的技能。
 
　　試著回想一下，面對挑戰時，你通常是怎麼反應的？是情緒失控，或優柔寡斷？你的行為是否符合你的本意？或者，你能夠在壓力之下展現沉著冷靜的態度？你的反應，其實很大程度決定了事情的走向。
 
　　布雷克特指出：你能夠在人生中的各個面向─事業、友誼、愛情與家庭─取得多少你渴望的成就，關鍵在於你能多妥善應對自己的情緒。幸好情緒管理並非固定、無法改變的特質，而是一組可以也必須學習、練習、反覆調整的技能。
 
　　布雷克特在本書闡述他自身處理情緒時遭遇的挑戰、分析關於情緒管理的最新研究，並提供一組實用策略，幫助讀者有智慧地運用情緒，去建立健康的人際關係、達成目標、擁有更良好的心理狀態。
 
　　這個世界上沒有壞情緒，只有我們未能理解，以及未能正確引導的情緒。透過本書，讀者將可以學會人生中最重要的技能之一，在壓力之下，不再放任自己做出會後悔的決定，而是有意識地選擇以更好的方式處理情緒、展現最佳自我。(文/博客來編譯) 

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From Marc Brackett, founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of the bestselling book Permission to Feel, comes an essential guide for regulating how we respond to our emotions in order to transform our lives.

Success in virtually every aspect of life--career, friendship, love, and family--is determined mainly by one thing: how we deal with emotions. In your most challenging moments, how did you respond? Did you fly off the handle? Were you paralyzed by indecision? Did you engage in behaviors that undermined your best intentions? Or did you exhibit grace under pressure and flourish? How you responded likely shaped what happened next. But emotion regulation isn’t a fixed trait, as many believe. It is a set of skills and strategies that must be learned, practiced, and refined over a lifetime.

Marc Brackett examines his own challenges dealing with emotions, explains the latest science of emotion regulation, and provides a set of practical, evidence-based strategies to help us use our feelings wisely to nurture healthy relationships, achieve ambitious goals, and experience greater well-being. At the heart of his message is acceptance: There are no bad emotions--only emotions we don’t understand or know how to direct in positive, intentional ways.

The good news? We all have the power to decide how we will respond to what life throws at us. By honing our emotion regulation skills, we can increase our chances of achieving success in all facets of our lives. Dealing with Feeling will show you how to work with your and others’ emotions--not against them--so you can become the best version of yourself and lift others up too.

Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, a professor in the Child Study Center at Yale University, and the author of the bestselling book Permission to Feel. Marc is the lead developer of RULER, an evidence-based approach to social and emotional learning that has been adopted by more than five thousand schools around the globe, and is the author of more than two hundred scholarly publications. He has been featured in many prominent media outlets, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, Good Morning America, Today, and the Huberman Lab podcast, and hasbeen the keynote speaker at more than seven hundred conferences around the world, including ones hosted by the White House, The New York Times, and the Aspen Institute. Marc regularly consults with Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and Microsoft on best practices for integrating the principles of emotional intelligence into the workplace. In 2022, with Pinterest cofounder Ben Silbermann, Marc and his team cocreated HowWeFeel, an award-winning free Apple app designed to teach emotion skills and cultivate emotional well-being. In 2024, he launched the YouTube webcastDealing with Feelings. Marc lives in Connecticut and New York City.